The fear of being seen can be paralyzing for many adults, teens and even children. This obstacle prevents us from showing up and shining as our most unique self at work, in our business, with family and in relationships. There are a number of markings in the hands that indicate a fear of being seen, potentially criticized and possibly rejected but today we’ll look at one commonly found in the hands.
In a previous article I wrote How to Identify Stress Indicators in the Hands I discussed various Attack Lines at a high level.
Let’s look more closely at a particular Attack Line in the hand, learn more about it and answer powerful questions to call in some courage to come out of hiding.
When the line starts on the Mars Mount (orange circle) just under the start of the Life Line and diagonally crosses the palm and ends under the Ring finger (red arrow) the owner is likely to prefer hiding out to avoid the possibility of receiving some sort of negative response.
To my students I teach that this challenge marking is actually a call to feel the fear and do it anyway. Yes, that is easier said than done because the owner is invisibly defending against the arising attack of the tomatoes!
The silent assault is an inside job. With a deep desire to fit in, the mind creates a powerful story about rejection. This line suggests denial to feeling approved of and struggle with the sense of ‘belonging’. Stress is evident. So how can that tension be harnessed and applied in a positive direction?
This is really about getting comfortable with the uncomfortable. This fear is not in the way, it is the way for your authentic creative expression to stream through you. This is an opportunity indicator to learn how to stand in your courage, wearing your favorite super hero outfit and move through the anxiety.
Imagine an upcoming scenario where you feel a little (or a lot) of fear about being seen when you’d really like to feel approved of. Perhaps giving a presentation at work, speaking at a memorial service, asking someone out on a date, striking up a conversation at a party, displaying a piece of art on stage, or….
Now answer these questions (on paper with pen creates greater impact and more immediate results):
- What new belief would positively support you in accepting yourself as you are and expressing your unique self in this scenario?
- What would have to be true for you to allow your authentic self to be seen?
- If you had no fear at all who would you be?
- If you were to become still and listen to the truth, what would you hear?
Mantra: I accept myself as I am.